Comments on: Blogging, Exploration, and My Own Apathy

By: ranat

ranat — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 05:44:30 +0000

Thanks for commiserations, all. When I first admitted to myself I was kinky, it seemed the BDSM scene was the broad, well-paved avenue that I had been willfully blind to, but now it seems like a twisty little path through some rocks. But that can be an adventure all in itself.

By: devastatingyet

devastatingyet — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 23:28:06 +0000

Good luck with this. My best guess is that you will have to simply get to know more people in the scene well enough to want to play with them. (I don’t think not wanting to have sex will be an obstacle, personally.)

I’m in Denver and there are a fair number of kink opportunities here, so medium-sized cities can really work for kink. YMMV of course.

By: maymay

maymay — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 09:51:25 +0000

I so totally relate to this sentiment:

I feel like I’ve met the same person, over and over again.

I’ve got no great advice, sorry. Eventually you find someone interesting, and some of those people actually turn out to be worthy of your time. I hope you find more of them soon.

By: axe

axe — Tue, 04 Nov 2008 05:18:59 +0000

I know exactly what you’re talking about. I think I may have moved beyond jaded myself. Sometimes it’s best to just accept things the way they are and go with the flow.

Then again, it’s not like this theory works too well for me.